Ok I am getting back on track with my project, the lcd display is better than ever, I have extra functionality, can clear blocks as well as clear the whole screen and most significantly....
MY SCREEN REFRESH RATE IS FIXED!!!
This is what I did, if you get the sparkfun lcd YOU WILL NEED TO DO THIS.
Here is the lcd: http://www.sparkfun.com/products/9351
Here is the new firmware: http://sourceforge.net/projects/serialglcd/files/
You will need:
AVR ISP Mk2 (or similar product): http://store.atmel.com/PartDetail.aspx?q=p:10500054
AVR Studio 5: http://www.atmel.com/microsite/avr_studio_5/default.asp?source=redirect
Simply connect up the isp to the 6 holes on the back of the serial display and power the board like this: